Books

Fathers

Fatherless America: Confronting Our Most Urgent Social Problem

Why Fathers Count: The Importance of Fathers and Their Involvement with Children

Do Fathers Matter?: What Science Is Telling Us About the Parent We’ve Overlooked

FatherNeed: Why Father Care Is as Essential as Mother Care for Your Child

Handbook of Father Involvement: Multidisciplinary Perspectives

Equal Parenting

The Equal Parent Presumption: Social Justice in the Legal Determination of Parenting after Divorce

Parenting

Between Fathers and Daughters: Enriching and Rebuilding Your Adult Relationship

Parental Alienation

An Attachment-Based Model of Parental Alienation: Foundations

Divorce Poison New and Updated Edition: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing

Custody (history and policy)

From Father’s Property to Children’s Rights

Custody Revolution: Father Custody and the Motherhood Mystique

The Custody Wars: Why Children Are Losing The Legal Battle, And What We Can Do About It

 

Divorce

The Changing Experience of Childhood: Families and Divorce

The Narcissistic Parent: A Guidebook for Legal Professionals Working with Families in High-Conflict Divorce

Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Father’s Rights

Not In the Child’s Best Interest: How Divorce Courts get it all Wrong and How the Constitution can fix it

Protecting Parent-Child Bonds: The 28th Amendment

Fathers’ Rights: Hard-Hitting and Fair Advice for Every Father Involved in a Custody Dispute

Fathers’ Rights: The Best Interest of Your Child Includes You

 

Family Court Abuse

Taken Into Custody: The War Against Fathers, Marriage, and the Family

 

Children’s Books

Sophia’s Family

 

 

 


Fathers

Fatherless America: Confronting Our Most Urgent Social Problem

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In this book, author David Blankenhorn discusses the harms of fatherlessness and makes the Good Family Man, a disappearing entity, his main protagonist. He writes: “Fatherless is the most harmful demographic trend of this generation. It is the leading cause of declining child well-being in our society. It is also the engine driving our most urgent social problems, from crime to adolescent pregnancy to child sexual abuse to domestic violence against women. yet, despite its scale and social consequences, fatherlessness is a problem that is frequently ignored or denied. Especially within our elite discourse, it remains a problem with no name.”

 

Why Fathers Count: The Importance of Fathers and Their Involvement with Children

Why Fathers Count: The Importance of Fathers and Their Involvement with Children (edited by Sean E. Brotherson and Joseph M. White) is an anthology (27 articles) dealing with the most important work men ever do?-being totally involved in the lives of their children and families. It is men’s strengths, their capacity to care and protect and give, that are needed by children, women, and men themselves. In a culture that questions the value of men in family life, we need a compelling perspective on what men can contribute to their families and communities and insight on the ways in which fathers and father figures make a meaningful difference. Why Fathers Count offers that insight, giving a fresh and powerful perspective on the meaningful contributions of fathers and father figures to the lives of children and families.

 

 

 

Do Fathers Matter?: What Science Is Telling Us About the Parent We’ve Overlooked

For too long, we’ve thought of fathers as little more than sources of authority and economic stability in the lives of their children. Yet cutting-edge studies drawing unexpected links between fathers and children are forcing us to reconsider our assumptions and ask new questions: What changes occur in men when they are “expecting”? Do fathers affect their children’s language development? What are the risks and rewards of being an older-than-average father at the time the child is born? What happens to a father’s hormone levels at every stage of his child’s development, and can a child influence the father’s health? Just how much do fathers matter?
In Do Fathers Matter? the award-winning journalist and father of five Paul Raeburn overturns the many myths and stereotypes of fatherhood as he examines the latest scientific findings on the parent we’ve often overlooked. Drawing on research from neuroscientists, animal behaviorists, geneticists, and developmental psychologists, among others, Raeburn takes us through the various stages of fatherhood, revealing the profound physiological connections between children and fathers, from conception through adolescence and into adulthood-and the importance of the relationship between mothers and fathers. In the process, he challenges the legacy of Freud and mainstream views of parental attachment, and also explains how we can become better parents ourselves.
Ultimately, Raeburn shows how the role of the father is distinctly different from that of the mother, and that embracing fathers’ significance in the lives of young people is something we can all benefit from. An engrossing, eye-opening, and deeply personal book that makes a case for a new perspective on the importance of fathers in our lives no matter what our family structure, Do Fathers Matter? will change the way we view fatherhood today.

FatherNeed: Why Father Care Is as Essential as Mother Care for Your Child

Is your child getting the right balance of nurturing care that all children need to grow into healthy adults, including the kind of care only a father can give? For years the most trusted child care experts have emphasized the mother/child bond, but this is only half the story. Kids and dads are also biologically hardwired for a different but equally important relationship. In Fatherneed, Dr. Kyle D. Pruett draws on more than two decades of highly acclaimed research at the Yale Child Study Center to offer the first complete understanding of the father’s role in child and adult development. Combining real-life examples from his own child and family psychiatry practice with state-of-the-art research data, Dr. Pruett shows how fathers parent differently and why that difference is so important to a child’s physical, cognitive, emotional, and behavioral development. Dr. Pruett challenges the time-honored tradition of giving mothers all the credit — and all the blame — for how their children turn out. Biological studies of infants show that they seek comfort from moms but crave interaction with their dads. Mothers quickly reassure toddlers when they become frustrated or fearful, whereas fathers encourage their toddlers to tolerate frustration a bit longer, helping them develop into adults with greater reserves of strength in dealing with everyday stress and frustration. And Dr. Pruett’s long-term studies show that children who are actively involved with their fathers from birth through adolescence develop more emotional balance, stronger curiosity, and greater self-assurance. Fatherneed is also a how-to guide for engaged fathering that will give your children the skills todevelop into happy and healthy adults. Dr. Pruett specifically addresses what a father can do to prepare his marriage, his house, and his emotions for his child’s needs, from infancy through the toddler years, childhood, adolescence, and young and mature adulthood. His advice to fathers is comprehensive and wide-ranging: how to speak to toddlers in language they can understand; how to avoid the common tendency to reinforce gender stereotypes in young children; how to maintain a connection with an increasingly autonomous teenager; how to strengthen one’s marriage while facing the challenges of fathering. Divorced fathers, fathers of adopted children, stepfathers, and fathers of special-needs children all face unique challenges, and Dr. Pruett offers step-by-step guidance for coping with every one of these special situations. When fathers are absent, mothers must look elsewhere. Dr. Pruett shows single moms how to be sure that their children are getting the benefit of a male adult’s attention. Successful fathering does not come at the expense of the mother/child bond; in fact it depends on a mother’s encouragement. Every mother loves to see the health and happiness in her child, and in the child’s father, that result from successful fathering. Through true stories of actual families Fatherneed reveals the infinite varieties of fathering that result when a dedicated father and a supportive mother work together. With wit, authority, and compassion, Dr. Pruett shows how to be sure that your child gets what only a father can provide.

Handbook of Father Involvement: Multidisciplinary Perspectives

This second edition reviews the new research findings and theoretical advances on fathers, families, child development, programs, and policies that have occurred in the past decade. Contributors from a range of disciplines and countries showcase contemporary findings within a new common chapter structure. All of the chapters are either extensively revised or entirely new. Biological, evolutionary, demographic, developmental, cultural, sociological, economic, and legal perspectives of father involvement are described along with policy and program implications. Now with a greater international perspective, this edition considers demographic shifts in families in the United States and Europe.

All chapters now follow a common structure to enhance readability and interdisciplinary connections. Each chapter features: Historical Overview and Theoretical Perspectives; Research Questions; Research Methods and Measurement; Empirical Findings; Bridges to other Disciplines; Policy Implications; and Future Directions. In addition, each chapter highlights universal and cultural processes and mechanisms. This structure illuminates the ways that theories, methods, and findings are guided by disciplinary lenses and encourages multidisciplinary perspectives.

This extensively revised edition now features:

• Expanded section on Biological and Evolutionary Perspectives that reviews fathering in animal populations and the genetic and hormonal underpinnings that feed into fathering behaviors within and across species.
• New section on Economic and Legal Perspectives that addresses the economics of fatherhood, marriage, divorce, and child custody issues, and family dispute resolution.
• New section on Child Development and Family Processes that covers topics on father-child relationships, the father’ role in children’s language, cognitive, and social development, and father risk, family context, and co-parenting.                   
• Separate chapters on Black, Latino, and Asian American fathers.
• Now includes research on cohabitation and parenting, gender roles and fathering, intergenerational parenting, and fatherhood implications for men in the section on Sociological Perspectives.
• The latest demographics, policies, and programs influencing father involvement in both the US and Europe.
• Coverage of methodological and measurement topics and processes that are universal across ethnic groups and cultures in each chapter.

Intended for advanced students, practitioners, policymakers, and researchers interested in fatherhood and family processes from a variety of disciplines including psychology, family studies, economics, sociology, and social work, and anyone interested in child and family policy.

 


Equal Parenting

The Equal Parent Presumption: Social Justice in the Legal Determination of Parenting after Divorce

In custody battles over the children of separated parents, the prevailing standard of evaluating what is in the “best interests of the child” has been scrutinized because of the discretionary nature of what is “best” and because of the bias in favour of the child residing in one “primary residence.” In response, a consensus is beginning to emerge that it is vitally important that children maintain meaningful relationships with both parents after divorce. In The Equal Parent Presumption, Edward Kruk proposes a child-focused approach based on a standard that considers the best interests of the child from the perspective of the child and a responsibility-to-needs orientation to social justice for children and families. Challenging previous research and received ideas, Kruk presents an evidence-based framework of equal parental responsibility as the most effective means of ensuring the protection of family relationships following divorce, and shielding children from ongoing parental conflict and family violence. The existing system of determining parental rights and responsibilities is harming families. The Equal Parent Presumption addresses a major barrier to the principle of gender equality in parenting after divorce, and proposes a viable alternative to sole custody in the form of a legal presumption of shared and equal parenting.

Parenting

Between Fathers and Daughters: Enriching and Rebuilding Your Adult Relationship

At last! A no-nonsense, entertaining, and insightful book for dads and daughters who want more from their relationship–or who want to understand and rebuild it on an adult level. Dr. Linda Nielsen addresses the questions that daughters and dads regularly ask her–and a lot more. Based on two decades of work with hundreds of dads and daughters, BETWEEN FATHERS AND DAUGHTERS summarizes cutting-edge research in clear language and offers compelling stories about real people–including well-known celebrities. With candor and humor, BETWEEN FATHERS AND DAUGHTERS exposes the half-truths, downright lies, and family dynamics that prevent so many dads and daughters from having a more relaxed, more meaningful, more communicative relationship, regardless of age. Explaining why most daughter-dad relationships haven’t reached their full potential or have unraveled, Nielsen provides hope as she shows fathers and daughters how to make changes now!

 

 


Parental Alienation

An Attachment-Based Model of Parental Alienation: Foundations

The construct of “parental alienation” has a controversial history. An attachment-based model of “parental alienation” brings the controversy to an end. An attachment-based model of “parental alienation” uses established constructs and principles of professional psychology to fully describe the psychological and interpersonal processes that create the symptom features of “parental alienation.” By defining “parental alienation” within standard and established psychological principles and constructs, an attachment-based model identifies a set of specific diagnostic indicators that can reliably identify “parental alienation” while differentiating “parental alienation” from other sources of parent-child conflict. An attachment-based model for the construct of “parental alienation” also identifies specific domains of professional expertise and knowledge necessary for the professionally competent diagnosis and treatment of this special population of children and families. Children deserve a childhood free from the stress of their parents’ conflict, and parents deserve to love and be loved by their children. An attachment-based model of “parental alienation” represents an important step in creating a solution to the family tragedy of “parental alienation” in high-conflict divorce.

 

Divorce Poison New and Updated Edition: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing

Your ex-spouse is bad mouthing you to your children, constantly portraying you in a negative light, perhaps even trying to turn them against you. If you handle the situation ineffectively, your relationship with your children could suffer. You could lose their respect, lose their affections-even, in extreme cases, lose all contact with them. The conventional advice is to do nothing, that fighting fire with fire will only result in greater injury to the children. But after years of consulting parents who heeded such advice with no success, Dr. Richard Warshak is convinced that this approach is wrong. It doesn’t work, and parents are left feeling helpless and hopeless. DIVORCE POISON instead offers a blueprint for effective response. In it, you will learn how to distinguish different types of criticism, how and why parents manipulate their children, how to detect these maneuvers, and how these practices damage children. Most importantly, you’ll discover powerful strategies to preserve and rebuild loving relationships with your children.

DIVORCE POISON is a time-tested work that gives parents powerful strategies to preserve and rebuild loving relationships with their children-and provides practical advice from legal and mental-health professionals to help their clients and safeguard the welfare of children. Whether they are perpetrators of divorce poison, victims of it, or both, parents who heed Dr. Warshak’s advice will enable their children to maintain love and respect for their parents-even if their parents no longer love and respect each other.

 


Custody (history and policy)

 

From Father’s Property to Children’s Rights

  • Combining historical and legal scholarship, this is an analysis of the history of child custody in the USA from colonial times to the present day. It draws on history to illuminate contemporary issues, offering a rich perspective on the historical relationship of children to their parents.

 

 

 

 

Custody Revolution: Father Custody and the Motherhood Mystique

Warshak contends that the “motherhood mystique”–a widespread belief that women naturally make better parents than men and are more important to their children than fathers are–often leads courts to give custody to the mother in a divorce settlement regardless of the father’s wishes or her own situation. A Texas psychologist, he argues that we must revise this outmoded way of thinking and take into greater account factors other than the parent’s sex in awarding custody. He draws on numerous studies to argue that children, especially boys, who live with their father may be more confident, more popular, more successful in school and generally happier than those who reside with their mother. He offers advice on how to negotiate flexible custody arrangements (including checklists to help parents make the decision) and discusses joint custody as well. No matter which parent gets custody, Warshak emphasizes, it is vital for both of them to maintain close relationships with their children. A valuable, commonsensical guide. ( Sept. )
 

 

The Custody Wars: Why Children Are Losing The Legal Battle, And What We Can Do About It

How should the courts decide custody cases that involve adoption, divorce, and single parenting? Should an abusive husband be given custody of his child? What about unwed fathers? Gay parents? How much say should young children have in court? In this text, family lawyer and historian, Mary Ann Mason, casts a harsh spotlight on these and other aspects of child custody. She argues that the legal shift to equal treatment of men and women has translated into parents’ rights taking precedence over children’s needs. Mason insists that fairness to parents must not come at the expense of children. Drawing on a wealth of legal cases and research, Mason presents a bold programme for reform that aims to change the terms of debate about child custody cases.

 

 

Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Protect Yourself from Manipulation, False Accusations, and Abuse

Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better—many of these “persuasive blamers” leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way.

Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.

Turn to this guide to help you:

  • Predict what your spouse may do or say in court
  • Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking
  • Choose a lawyer who understands your case
  • Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you

Divorce

The Narcissistic Parent: A Guidebook for Legal Professionals Working with Families in High-Conflict Divorce

In divorce litigation, family law professionals can play a crucial role in supporting children’s healthy emotional and psychological development following the break-up of the intact family structure, and in helping the family transition into a new separated family structure. Children love their parents, both parents, and all children want the love of both parents in return. However, in the context of high inter-spousal conflict children are often compelled by the pathology of a narcissistic parent to choose sides in the spousal conflict against the other parent. In these circumstances of high-conflict divorce, minor’s counsel, guardians ad litem, and family law judiciary become crucial to helping resolve the child’s triangulation into the spousal conflict and restoring the child’s healthy developmental trajectory. Recognizing and helping to resolve the influence of the narcissistic parent’s pathology on the child is crucial to the role of the legal professional in supporting the family’s successful transition to a new post-divorce separated-family structure of independent families and shared co-parenting. In The Narcissistic Parent, Dr. Childress provides a brief primer on the features of the narcissistic personality parent that impact the role of legal professionals working with children and families surrounding divorce and child custody issues.

The Changing Experience of Childhood: Families and Divorce

Family life in modern societies is being transformed by high rates of divorce. Such changes have given rise to concerns that the quality of family life for children has deteriorated and that children are damaged by the choices their parents are making. It is possible, however, that children and families are more resilient than this. Rather than witnessing the end of the family and the end of contented childhood, we could be seeing the emergence of post-divorce families and new experiences of childhood based on these new arrangements.

This path-breaking book explores children’s own accounts of family life after divorce and allows us to see these changes from their point of view. It provides a sociological perspective on how childhood may be changing and how the ‘democratic’ status of children in the family may be in the process of transformation. The implications for family and legal policy of listening to children’s views are also set out.

The Changing Experience of Childhood will be of interest to all those in academic and public life concerned about the future of the family.

 


Fathers’ Rights

Not In the Child’s Best Interest: How Divorce Courts get it all Wrong and How the Constitution can fix it

You Can Protect Your Children in Divorce

  • You can stop the divorce court from invading your privacy
  • You can stop the illegal family studies
  • You can limit the judges authority to rip your life apart
  • You can stop the personal attacks on your parenting style
  • You can stop the system from hurting your child
  • You can stop the system from making you broke
  • You can learn to protect those you love most

The Divorce Industry takes BILLIONS of dollars from our children every single year! STOP THEM NOW!

This book will give you the arguments, the legal framework for stopping the divorce custody machine dead in its tracks. This book will show you how to stop giving up your rights to your children. Your children need you in their lives. The most important thing you can do to give your child a future is to remain a full parent in their lives. To retain equal time to show them love and to teach them through your daily example. Children do best in life when they have two fit parents active in their lives.

Your right to the care, custody and control over your child is a Fundamental Liberty, just as your right to free speech is, or your right to freedom of religion is a Fundamental Liberty. Your child has the right to associate with you and to have you as a parent, not a visitor, in their life. You and your child have privacy rights in your family life that are between you and your child as individuals. They do NOT come from the marriage, and, if you are a natural parent, they do NOT come from the Government. If you let them, the State will take your rights adn do with them what they please.

Protecting Parent-Child Bonds: The 28th Amendment

“Protecting Parent-Child Bonds: The 28th Amendment” is a book for those seeking changes to our family law system through legislation and political activism. It describes a proposed amendment that will forever enshrine the protection of parent-child bonds into our United States Constitution. This Amendment spells out for all family courts that our children’s best interests are best protected by fit parents with strongly-protected and equal parental rights. If you want the family law system to change but don’t know how to make your voice count then get this book and simply send copies to your judges and legislators with a note saying “I want this constitutional Amendment.” Let this book make your arguments directly to those with the power to change the system.

 

 

Fathers’ Rights: The Best Interest of Your Child Includes You

Millions of fathers are currently fighting for custody of their children. Many wonder if they will ever again be an important part of their children’s lives. Fathers’ Rights covers every aspect of the custody process, including protecting the parent/child relationship as a break-up occurs, determining when to settle and when to litigate and explanations concerning the court’s determination of a fair level of child support.

This new edition updates the ever-changing laws in this area and expands into additional topics of importance concerning paternity issues and fathers serving in the armed forces.

Numerous court cases are used as examples to illustrate relevant situations. An extensive list of resources including agencies, organizations and websites is included as easy reference for the reader.

 

 

Fathers’ Rights: Hard-Hitting and Fair Advice for Every Father Involved in a Custody Dispute

Millions of fathers are currently embroiled in the fight of their lives to win custody of their children. Wounded by the acrimony and greed that often accompany divorce proceedings, many wonder if they will ever again be an important part of their sons’ and daughters’ lives. With this landmark book, renowned men’s rights attorney Jeffery M. Leving offers disenfranchised fathers true hope and meaningful advice certain to save years of anguish and possibly thousands of dollars.Drawing on more than fifteen years of frontline experience, Leving leads fathers through every twist and turn of the legal system and shows them how to protect their rights (and their children’s)—both before and during divorce litigation.This authoritative and accessible book covers every aspect of the custody process, including protecting the parent/child relationship as a breakup occurs; finding a competent and sympathetic lawyer; drafting a “Shared Parenting Agreement”; demonstrating parental competence when falsely accused of abuse; avoiding parental alienation; determining when to settle and when to litigate; techniques for dealing effectively with psychologists, social workers, and other domestic relations experts; and much more.Illustrated with vivid real-life examples, Jeffery Leving and Kenneth Dachman’s practical guide is essential reading for the scores of American fathers routinely excluded from their children’s lives by a biased legal system in which avarice and recrimination too often overwhelm compassion and justice.

 


 Family Court Abuse

Taken Into Custody: The War Against Fathers, Marriage, and the Family

Taken into Custody’ exposes the greatest and most destructive civil rights abuse in America today. Family courts and Soviet-style bureaucracies trample basic civil liberties, entering homes uninvited and taking away people’s children at will, then throwing the parents into jail without any form of due process, much less a trial. No parent, no child, no family in America is safe. The legal industry does not want you to hear this story. Radical feminists, bar associations, and social work bureaucracies have colluded to suppress this information. Even pro-family”” groups and civil libertarians look the other way. Yet it is a reality for tens of millions of Americans who are our neighbors.””

 

 

 


Children’s Books

Sophia’s Family

Young readers will enjoy knowing they aren’t alone in having parents that have divorced or separated and now have step-families.  Sophia’s Family takes a positive outlook on the two-home, blended families situation millions of children find themselves in without the ability to fully understand.  Sophia’s story has a message of hope for both children and adults with a special foreword by Dr. Travis Gee, PhD who has almost two decades of experience as a mental health expert specializing in family law situations.

Sophia’s Family takes readers through the positives of having two families in two homes.  This fox-filled divorce and blended-family children’s book  places equal emphasis on both  mom and dad.  The benefits of step-parents, step-siblings, and half-siblings are all discussed.  Sophia’s Family is filled with hand drawn and painted illustrations. We recommend Sophia’s Family for ages 2-7, but it’s suitable for the entire family.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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